FRR 160 – Body Image Series: Believing You Are Good Enough (Self-Worth)

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In this episode of Fearless Rebelle Radio, it’s the third episode in the body image series and I’m running solo and talking about what gets in the way of believing that we’re good enough, how to build self-worth and why it’s so damn important towards knowing you’re good enough as you are.

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In This Episode, I Chat About

  • What gets in the way of feeling good enough,
  • How our “shoulds” feed the belief that we’re not good enough,
  • What is self-worth and why it’s so damn important for you to feel good enough,
  • The difference between confidence and self-worth,
  • How perfectionism influences our self-worth,
  • 8 components to build self-worth,
  • Your free worksheet – 10 Powerful Ways To Reinforce That You’re Good Enough,
  • Plus so much more!
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      Episode 160: Body Image Series: Believing You Are Good Enough (Self-Worth)

      SUMMER: This episode of Fearless Rebelle Radio is brought to you by You on Fire. You on Fire is the amazing, 12-week online group coaching program that I run, where we build up your worth from the ground up, so that it’s no longer hinging on the way that you look. It’s got personalized coaching from me and incredible community support, plus life-time access. Get details on what’s included in this program, and sign up to be notified when doors open for the next cycle, by going to summerinnanen.com/youonfire. I would love to have you in that program and in that group.

      INTRO: This is Fearless Rebelle Radio, a podcast about body positivity, self-worth, anti-dieting, and Feminism. I am your host, Summer Innanen, a professionally trained coach specializing in body image, self-worth, and confidence, and the best-selling author of Body Image Remix. If you’re ready to break free of societal standards and stop living behind the number on your scale, then you have come to the right place! Welcome to the show.

      This is Episode 160, and in this episode of Fearless Rebelle Radio, it is the third episode in the Body Image Series, and I’m talking about self-worth and what it means to feel good enough. We’re going to look at how perfectionism gets in the way of us believing that we’re good enough, and 8 ways to build self-worth. And I’ve got a really cool free worksheet with this one. It’s called “10 Powerful Ways to Reinforce that You’re Good Enough,” and these are kind of hidden ways that we don’t really realize are getting in the way of us asserting that we matter, and asserting that we’re good enough. So you can grab that and any other links I mention at summerinnanen.com/160.

      And if you’re listening to this on Apple Podcasts, or probably any other app that you use to listen to podcasts, I haven’t actually checked this out, I should really do this before I’m saying it, but let’s just trust that this is actually going to work. I had one of the listeners tell me that I should link the show notes in the episode description, and I was like, that’s really smart! It’s been five years and I’ve never done that.

      So the last few episodes, specifically the ones in this Body Image Series, the link to the show notes is in the episode description. So if you’re listening to this on your phone– I guess most people listen to it on their phone these days — you can just go to the episode description and you should be able to click the live link there, so that way you don’t have to figure out how to spell summerinnanen.com.

      Although, keep in mind, you can always just go to thebodyimagecoach.com That will take you to my website. And from there, you will be able to navigate through to the podcast and ????? episode.

      I want to give a shoutout to Pacserene, who left this really great five-star review: “Not only is she a rock star” — Oh, thank you! — “she has the ability to make you recognize those qualities in yourself. In our society, many of us feel marginalized because of our size. Well, she’ll turn that belief right around and give you dignity and self-love in exchange.”

      Wow, that review is really nice! I hadn’t read it before I said it aloud just there. That’s so kind. That really means a lot. I’m going to just breathe that one in for a minute and let that sink in. Thank you so much, Pacserene.

      And for the month of February, February 2020, if you leave a review, I will send you a free audio copy of my best-selling book, Body Image Remix. All you need to do is go to iTunes, search for Fearless Rebelle Radio, then click “Ratings and Reviews” and leave a review. Once you’ve done that, you can either DM me on Instagram or Facebook, or send me an email at info@summerinnanen.com, and just tell me what you wrote, maybe take a screen capture of it, or just tell me your username, and once that’s verified, I will just send you a free audio copy of the book! And I really thank the people that have done that so far. It’s awesome.

      And they’re enjoying the book, which is great! And lastly, you can get the free 10-day Body Confidence Makeover at summerinnanen.com/freebies, with ten steps to take right now to feel better in your body.

      One of the other things that I just wanted to mention, in terms of leaving a review. In my Instagram Stories, I have a highlighted Story that shows you how to do that through the Apple Podcast App. So if you are kind of confused, because, to be honest, I was. I wasn’t sure where the section was that you leave an actual review, so I did a screen capture video on that, and you can go to my highlighted Stories to see it. And I’ve had a couple people say, “Oh, thank you!” I could never figure it out. Maybe it’s because I’m not a millennial, and I find these things complicated sometimes, but hopefully other people will benefit from that information as well.

      Okay, today, is episode 3 in the Body Image Series, and if you’ve missed the first two episodes, what I’m doing is taking over the podcast over the next few weeks and giving you specific advice and talking about different topics related to body image and self-worth. And ways to be more accepting of who you are and the body that you have.

      And we’re going to be talking about self-worth and what it means to believe that you’re good enough. So today we’re talking about what gets in the way of feeling good enough, how our should’s feed the belief that we’re not good enough, what self-worth is, and why it’s so damn important for you to believe that you are good enough, the difference between confidence and self-worth, how perfectionism influences that, and I’m just going to briefly talk about the eight components of self-worth. I’m not going to go into too much detail on those because I think I’m going to do a workshop on that in March, but stay tuned for that. It’s just percolating in my brain at the moment.

      And as I said, there’s a really cool free worksheet, “10 Powerful Ways to Reinforce That You’re Good Enough.” They’re actions that you can take, everyday things in your life that may be, or you don’t even realize that you’re not doing, that you can start doing, to really make a deposit into your self-worth bucket, so to speak.

      So let’s just talk about, you know, self-worth is kind of this ambiguous thing. Like, what is it, even? So let’s put it into reality. And you can tell me if this sounds like you, or if this sounds familiar, but: You wake up in the morning, and within a couple of hours, you’ve already started to think to yourself, “I should’ve gotten up earlier. I shouldn’t have eaten that for breakfast. I really should’ve gotten off my phone and gone to bed earlier. Agh, I should exercise today. Agh, I should be more productive. I shouldn’t be so sensitive. Agh, I should not have said that to my mom. I should really call my friend, I haven’t talked to her in like three months. I shouldn’t have said that to my boss. I should want to have sex more often. Arghhh, and I should love my body!! What’s wrong with me?!”

      So, is that resonant with any of you listening? You know, we’re walking around all day shoulding on ourselves, and it’s a really big emotional weight to carry, when you think about that. We’re constantly setting these expectations and they’re not self-driven. They’re really coming from cultural expectations that we’ve internalized.

      And we have all these should’s on our shoulders, and this is such a common narrative that I see with people I work with, and we don’t even realize how much of an impact it’s having on our well-being and the way that we feel about ourselves. And every time that we should on ourselves, we’re saying, “I’m not good enough.”

      And I’m going to talk more about specifically what self-worth is, but on a very practical level, something that you can relate to, it’s really just believing that you’re not good enough, and it shows up so much in those should’s.

      And it’s not your fault that you feel that way. We’re not defective, you’re not defective, I’m not defective, so don’t should on yourself for shoulding on yourself. But what’s happening is, we live in this culture that’s instilled this belief that we’re not good enough unless we measure up to the standards of being the perfect woman.

      And the perfect woman, meaning, you have to look a certain way, you have to be successfull, you have to be a health enthusiast, you have to be a perfect mom or wife, you have to show no exhaustion, you have to be a sex kitten, you have to make sure your house looks like it came off HGTV… You know, if you think about it, it’s really kind of like this Goop, Gwyneth Paltrow standard, so to speak. And that’s what we’re feeling the pressure to be.And, oh, you can’t age, either! There’s a lot of other components to it.

      But anyways, it’s ridiculous, right? It’s these ridiculous standards that we feel like we need to be measuring up to, and therefore, we’re constantly self-evaluating and looking at it through the perspective of, “How do I measure up to that?” And it causes us to compare ourselves to others, be hyperfocused on how we’re perceived, and never feel like we’re good enough.

      Because we can’t achieve that level of perfection. It’s exhausting. And it causes us to be afraid of what other people are going to think of us. And to just never be able to kind of chill out in our lives, because we constantly feel like we should be doing more. We should do it all, and be it all.

      And those internalized cultural expectations are what we put back on ourselves, and it creates that narrative of should’s. And it is what makes us really turn to the next diet, or lifestyle change, because we think, “If only I could just make this change, then everything’s going to be better. If only I could just follow all these should’s, then everything will be better.”

      But that never really gets to the root of the issue, which is the belief that we’re not good enough. And the reason why is because if you think about this in the context of dieting, a lot of people that I work with, and myself personally, who have lost weight on a diet, which often happens in the short term, especially the first time, you get to that point, but you still don’t feel like you’re good enough. And that’s because that change in your body is not feeding the need in your soul to feel good enough.

      I remember being at my thinnest, and still hating my body and feeling like there was something else that needed to change. And that’s why, when I talk about body image work, I really intertwine it with self-worth, because it’s not just about liking your body, or focusing on your body, it’s about knowing that you are worthy and knowing who you are.

      And when we do that, our lives open up to new possibilities, and experiences that we thought we couldn’t have, because we’re not shoulding on ourselves all the time. You know, we haven’t had to check off all these other boxes of societal expectations. We can really live our life, have peace in our life, and pursue the things we want to pursue, and say the things we want to say, and show up how we want to show up, regardless of how we think we should be showing up.

      And so, that hopefully puts it into context if you’re wondering: self-worth, what does that really mean? How is that impacting me? Do I have a self-worth issue? And this is by no means to make you feel like you have a self-worth issue, but feelings of inadequacy really show up in the narrative of these should’s.

      And we all have it, because we all have some form of internalized oppression, from the culture that we live in, and feeling like we should be different. So what is self-worth, and why is it so important for you to feel good enough?

      I’ve talked about this before, I think in episode 79, The Body Image and Body Positive 101 podcast that I did awhile ago. When I first started to do this work, I was very much focused on body image and body esteem, and helping clients specifically with that. But what I realized is that a lot of people got to a place of feeling more neutral in their bodies, there was still those feelings of “I’m not good enough.”

      And my experience to that was very similar too. I worked really hard on accepting my body, but then those beliefs of “I’m not good enough” kept popping up in other areas of my life, in particular, my work. And that was all hidden before, because I was so fixated on my body, and so those underlying feelings of inadequacy were always deflected onto my body. But once I had done some of that initial body image work, it started to really become clear that the core of it was really this belief that I wasn’t good enough.

      And so, what I’ve noticed is that we fixate on our body in many instances, because we’ve been using that as a way to measure our worthiness. And so once that initial layer of body hate gets pulled off, we have to look at self-worth and all the different ways that we can build up self-worth.

      And ultimately, I want you to be able to look in the mirror and not have an emotional reaction to the way you look. And so, if your appearance is not connected to your worth, then you would be able to look in the mirror and just feel neutral about your reflection. And you’d most likely be able to maybe like what you see, maybe not like what you see, but be totally okay with yourself either way.

      So a lot of our body image issues stem from this need to feel exceptional, to feel validated, to feel like we’re good enough. And it’s not our fault that we feel this way, because I said, it’s that internalized oppression that’s caused us to feel inferior. And so it is so important and when we look at what self-worth actually is, it’s really just about knowing who you are, knowing who you are in your core, and knowing that you are valuable and worthy.

      So those are the kind of two pieces to it. And a lot of the work I do with people is about discovering who they really are, and helping them believe that who they are is valuable and worthy. And that’s through the way that they talk to themselves, the way that they show up, and their actions.

      And so, that’s what it means to work on self-worth, to have a solid sense of self-worth, and it is something that takes practice and intention and time and patience. And it’s one of those things that I think we all sort of carry around these wounds of inadequacy that are going to continue to pop up, but it’s about having the tools and the resources to become more resilient to those moments and know how to deal with them when they do pop up. And that’s so much of what I do with people.

      And so, it’s not the same as confidence. So let’s just talk about the difference between those things, because a lot of people just crave confidence, because it feels like something more tangible. You see celebrities, and you’re like, “Oh, I just want that level of confidence,” but it’s different than self-worth.

      So, confidence is related to actions. For example, having the confidence to ask for a promotion, but you can still lack confidence in certain areas or circumstances, and have a solid sense of self-worth. Conversely, you can feel confident and act confident, but still lack a sense of knowing that you’re worthy. So it’s about your reaction to the outcome to the situation.

      So what I mean by that is, if you have a really good sense of self-worth, even if you ask for the promotion at work and you don’t receive it, it may hurt, and you may realize that you lack a certain skill set or level of experience, but your value is not dependent on it, and you’re not going to get that crushing feeling of inadequacy and feeling like, “Oh, I shouldn’t have applied for that. What is wrong with me?” It’s kind of like that “What is wrong with me?” thought and narrative that we have in our brain.

      So you can have a solid sense of self-worth, receive that rejection, and still know, “You know what? I’m okay. I’m good enough. It just wasn’t the right job for me. There’s some things that I can work on to become better to apply or look for a different job.”

      So there’s a big difference in how we react, and that’s a good way to assess whether this is coming from that wound in our worthiness, or whether we have a solid sense of self-worth, and it’s just that we weren’t the right fit for the promotion, in this particular example that I’m using.

      Conversely, you can lack self-worth, like I said, and if you don’t get the promotion, you’re going to feel like a failure, that there’s something wrong with you. So confidence is really about a state of being, and that helps us take action in the face of fear. And that can exist with or without self-worth. And I encourage people to have the courage to do confident things, and push through that fear, and work through that fear, because that does help to build self-worth as well.

      Once we can see that we’re capable of doing these things, and be with ourselves through the moments of failure or rejection, that helps to really reinforce that we’re good enough .

      So that’s getting really specific in terms of the difference between confidence and self-worth, and why I like to focus on self-worth so much, and why shifting those feelings of inadequacy that we’ve inherited from our culture that we live in is so important.

      But let’s talk about what gets in the way of us believing that we’re good enough. So I think it’s the cultural forces, number one, but when I work with people, there’s such a common thread that most of them are Type A, high-achieving perfectionists. They’re successful in every area of their lives, except they just don’t feel like they’re ever good enough. And for most of their lives, they were trying to lose weight in order to gain that praise, gain that approval, gain that validation, and achieve that level of perfection.

      And so the common thread here is perfectionism. And that can be broken down into two parts. The first part of it is really just the quest for perfection and what is impossible. We’ve been fed this image of the perfect woman, as I said, that we’re measuring ourselves up against, and when the reality of our situation doesn’t match those ideals, we feel bad about ourselves, we feel shame, we feel inadequate. And the problem is that we have these ridiculous ideals that are impossible to live up to.

      Like, if you take a look at all your should’s, how realistic is it for you to do all those things? You don’t have enough time in the day. And our culture makes it feel like we should be able to do it all, that there’s this productivity narrative that we should be able to push through, figure it out, and bootstrap our way to perfection.

      Kelly Diels posted this really good meme on Instagram this week, that was fighting back against that other meme, I guess, that says “Beyonce has 24 hours in a day. If she can do it, you can too.” And just how that narrative of productivity is just so harmful for us. And is making us just feel like we’re inadequate.

      And it’s a never-winning cycle, because it’s impossible to achieve that. And even if you do achieve it, we’re hinging our happiness and self-worth on something that’s so external. And often it’s not truly fulfilling us. It’s like, “Okay, I should do all these things. I should have sex more often. I should have a cleaner house. I should do all those things.”

      Even if you tick off all those boxes, it’s not truly fulfilling us. It’s just giving us this external kind of validation and praise that lasts for a hot minute, and then it’s gone, and we’re back to feeling like we’re not good enough. And there’s always something else that we can be. There’s always this next level of perfection that we need to be striving to. And that’s why we have to let go of these ridiculous ideals, and really just embrace who we are, the fact that we’re imperfect, that we’re messy, that we need to rest, and we don’t always have our shit together, and that we’re good enough even though we don’t have our shit together.

      We don’t need to earn our worthiness, or as Brené Brown says, “hustle for our worthiness.” That has to come from within. And I really like to inspire people to reject the cultural standards in order to be who they are and really embrace that, and even use that rebellious energy that you’re going against the status quo, even if that means napping more often because you deserve a rest! And to see that as a way that you’re fighting back against the system, that you’re showing yourself that you matter, that you’re actually rejecting those should’s.

      And that’s a real mindset shift that’s hard for people because we think we need to be doing it all and constantly striving to do more and to be more. And in order to actually be more, we sometimes have to do less, and really just be yourself. Just be! Just sit there and be. And that’s getting a little existential there, but that’s what I mean by that. And so rejecting those should’s, rejecting that ideal, goes a long way towards getting to the core of who we really are, and believing that we’re good enough.

      And the second part of that is really that desire to please and be accepted and loved by others. So, perfectionism isn’t just the quest for the ideal, it’s like, what is that quest for the ideal really going for? And at the root of it, is that desire to be sometimes desirable, to please, to be accepted, to be loved, to be adored… and we’re hinging our sense of worth on what other people think and their approval. And we end up losing ourselves in the process.

      When our self-worth and our self-image ride on what other people think, which is something we cannot control, we’re never going to be happy with who we are. We have to be who we are, we have to take up space, we have to be okay with the fact that somebody’s not going to like us. Some people aren’t going to like us.

      And letting go of what other people think and being okay with everyone not liking us, and really getting into touch with who we are and showing our true self to the world, breaks those chains of perfection. It’s like, here, I’m going to use another Brené Brown analogy, but letting all that armor down. And really just being who we are.

      And that can be scary, because it’s like “Woo, I’m really, if I’m not striving for that, then who am I?” And I’ll talk a little bit about that in a second, because that can be a scary transition to make.

      And to overcome that, we really have to address our fear of judgment, our fear of rejection, and start to give ourselves the validation and the praise that we’ve been looking for from other people to solidify that belief that we’re good enough.

      Let’s talk about some of the components of self-worth. And as I said, I’m not going to go into each of these, because I want to save that, I think, for an upcoming workshop. I wish I was 100% confident that that’s what was going to be, but I think so. As I was writing this episode, I was like, “Oh, this needs to be its own workshop!” So I think that’s what I’m going to do in March.

      But self-worth is really, as I said, knowing who we are and knowing that who we are is valuable and worthy just as we are. And it’s built upon beliefs and actions that support that feeling of enough-ness.

      And the difference between self-worth and confidence and self-esteem is that it stays constant amongst the ups and downs of our life. So it allows us to accept and express our thoughts, our feelings, and our actions, without letting any negative experiences crush our sense of value.

      Of course, we’re going to have tender spots still. Of course it’s going to feel hard, especially if we’re new to this. It’s going to feel hard, really hard, to be rejected. It’s going to feel really hard to speak your mind and maybe set a boundary with someone who you’ve always really pandered to, for lack of a better word. And so, it’s going to take time. But that is how we build it up. And we want to get to a point where we can do those things, and it doesn’t crush our sense of value if someone doesn’t like us, if they don’t approve, or we are addressing conflict in our lives.

      And if you’re super-curious to know more about this, and want to do deeper work on this, in the group program that I run, You on Fire, this is what the program is all about. The first part of the program is really about letting go of all the beliefs that keep our worth tied to our body size, and challenging the beliefs and the fears that get in the way of us truly letting go and accepting our bodies and being who we are.

      And we kind of get rid of all those things that are draining our worthiness tank, and all the conditional things that are keeping our worth reliant on our body size and our appearance, and then we start to fill that tank up with the things that support a deep sense of knowing that we’re enough as we are, so that you can be more confident in social situations, take the risks you want to take without being plagued by a narrative of self-doubt, so whether that is asking for a promotion, or getting into the dating scene, or wearing a bikini to the beach.

      Just being able to do all those things and feel so much better about yourself when doing it. That’s really what that’s all about. So if you’re curious to know more, you can always go to summerinnanen.com/youonfire and get on the waitlist for the next cycle of that program, which, if you’re listening to this in February 2020, is going to be in the Spring of 2020.

      But we do have the power to reclaim our worth and believe that we are good enough exactly as we are, and rid ourselves of that perfectionism that holds us back, that makes us really hooked on praise, and fearful of criticism, and all of the should’s that are plaguing us and making us feel like we’re not good enough.

      And so, let’s talk about some of the things that can bolster our self-worth. and there are 8 categories, I guess you can call them, that I just want to talk really briefly about today.

      One is: beliefs that support unconditional respect and love for ourself. So when we believe that we are worthy, that we deserve love, that we deserve respect, primarily from ourselves, then that is the biggest thing we can do to support the belief that we’re good enough.

      Second thing is: having an acceptance of who we are, and that includes the parts of ourselves that maybe we don’t really like. And that’s okay, because we’re not aiming for perfection. We are messy, imperfect humans. And we have parts of ourselves that maybe aren’t so great. And that’s okay, to acknowledge that and invite that part of us into the equation and accept it and be okay with it.

      Third thing is: compassion. And that is really developed through the way that we talk to ourselves, the way that we treat ourselves. It’s not about positive self-talk, it’s about acceptance and making space for whatever feelings are coming up, and feeding the side of our brain that is the opposite of the negative side. So, if we’re not listening to our should’s, what are we listening to? It’s that compassionate narrative that says, “You’re okay, you’re good enough, your feelings are valid, you are worthy here.”

      Fourth thing is: thoughts and behaviors that support a sense of gratitude and enough-ness. So, finding appreciation in our lives, finding appreciation for who we are, finding the qualities that we bring to this world, and appreciating those qualities so that we can see that we are so much more than our body and appreciate that as well.

      Fifth thing is: self-care. And with self-care, it’s not just like pedicures and things like that. It’s so much bigger than that. It’s about showing ourselves that we matter. Those are the actions that we take that can really support the belief that we’re good enough, and support compassionate treatment of ourselves, and so, self-care is looking at the emotional, physical, and mental ways that we show ourselves that we matter.

      And the next chunk of self-worth work, because I said 8 things, there’s kind of 3 others that I wanted to cover, about knowing who we are. Who are we without our should’s? How do we show up in our lives if we’re not worried about other people’s opinions or judgments? Who are we without our identity as someone pursuing weight loss or dieting, or with “I’m the Paleo Crossfitter!” Who are we without that?

      And I feel like we get really lost in that, too, and that happens if we’ve been engaging in that for a long time or if something like motherhood or career or dieting has just taken over our lives, that we lose touch with who we really are. And when we’ve been striving to achieve this version of perfection, it’s like, who are we without those should’s? That’s a big scary unknown.

      And so, a huge piece of connecting with our sense of self, and sense of self-worth, is about knowing who we are in the absence of those shoudl’s. And just knowing our identity and things like that, and how that’s maybe evolved over the course of our lives, and who we are in this moment.

      And so, the three pieces of that: one is really looking at our values and making choices and taking actions that honor who we are and our values. The next one is having a sense of purpose. So, having a sense of purpose outside of striving to lose weight or striving to please others, and that can be scary for some people. It really can be, because it’s like, Whoa! What am I doing if I’m not constantly performing for approval and praise, and striving for perfection? And it’s understanding and connecting with that sense of purpose.

      And it doesn’t mean having a different career or anything like that. Sometimes it does, but there’s a reason why you’re here on this earth, and it’s really about connecting to that, and seeing that you’re greater than all of these other external things that you’ve been measuring yourself up against.

      And then the last piece is play and pleasure and creativity, and I kind of take that from Brené Brown’s model that she uses in The Gifts of Imperfection, in terms of a whole-hearted person. I like these pieces because they connect with a kind of more innocent level of ourselves that perhaps we had when we were more uninhibited as a child. And so connecting with play and pleasure and creativity, which can also seem really daunting, because maybe you have a strange relationship with that, or maybe you don’t see yourself as a creative person. But I guess what we’re trying to do with that is really breaking down the chains of perfection, and looking at us and saying, who are we?

      And we can use play and pleasure to discover more about who we are. And so those are the 8 pieces that I use when I’m working with people, to really look at building up self-worth. And as I said, I think there’ll be a workshop on those things in more detail, and how to go about building those things.

      That’s essentially the model that is in my You on Fire program. We look at all those different components to really build up this belief that who you are is good enough, and that your identity is not about those should’s and striving for that ideal.

      Okay, so that wraps up what I wanted to talk about here. And I’ve got a worksheet called “10 Powerful Ways to Reinforce that You’re Good Enough,” and these are the not-so-obvious ways that we can reinforce that we’re good enough.

      So there’s obvious ways, like self-talk, being compassionate with ourselves, but there’s a lot of actions that we can take to really reinforce that we’re good enough, so I’ve listed ten of them, in this worksheet that you can download and use it as your guide to help you make more deposits into your self-worth bucket, to believe that you are worthy and that you are lovable and that you’re valuable, because you are! You really are. I see that in you, even though I can’t actually see you right now, but I just know it. And I want you to believe that for yourself.

      So use this and look for ways to apply that into your life. you can get that at summerinnanen.com/160. And I look forward to chatting more about some of these other topics related to body image and self-worth in the next few episodes in this body image series.

      And I am going live every Friday on Facebook, on my Facebook page, at noon PST, to do a wrap-up show for this podcast episode, so we can talk about this a little bit further, we can highlight the key points, you can ask me questions, and we’ll see how that goes! And that’s on my public page, so you don’t need to be a part of a specific group. I don’t have a public group anymore, it’s just on my public Summer Innanen Coach page that you can go to and watch that, and the recording will stay up there.

      Thank you so much for listening to this, and remember, you can go to summerinnanen.com/160 to get the show notes nd the free download for this episode. As well, don’t forget to leave a review in the month of November to get that free audio version of the book.

      Alright, thank you so much for listening. Rock on!

      OUTRO: I’m Summer Innanen, and I want to thank you for listening today. You can follow me on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter, @summerinnanen. If you haven’t yet, go to Apple Podcasts, and subscribe, rate, and review this show. I would be so grateful. Until next time, rock on!

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